This is one of my favourite quotes! To me, it doesn’t mean you should need to change who you are, because I am definitely all about being yourself and loving yourself, but I do think it is important to sometimes think about the concept of; you get what you give!
“We all want positive influences in our lives and many of us are searching for them relentlessly -foraging friendships and letting those go who don’t inspire us – but often we forget to ask ourselves if we are positive influences. We go through life looking for positivity and seeking it in others without really assessing what it is that we’re giving back to others. Cliche as it sounds, you get what you give!
So, take a moment, stop what you’re doing, and ask yourself these questions:
- What kind of vibe do I give off?
- How do I convey my beliefs and thoughts to others?
- How enjoyable am I to be around?
- What makes me interesting? Fun? Positive?
- What am I giving back to those around me?
Honestly, when I stopped and really answered these questions for myself, I wasn’t as happy with the answers as I would like to be. There are times when I’m just plain not fun to be around. I’m in a rush or I’m stressed or I’m thinking to myself, “What’s next?” And who wants to be around someone who isn’t enjoying the moment, but is instead thinking about what she has to do next? I certainly wouldn’t want to be around someone like that, and yet, I am someone like that more often than I’d like.
The whole “get what you give” concept is cliche, yes, but it’s also true. If you want to be around a certain type of person, you need to be that type of person. If you don’t feel as if you are the type of person you would want to spend time with, you must ask yourself: What can I do to make myself the kind of person I want to be around?
Of course, I’m not at all suggesting that you change who you are. At our very core, we have certain attributes and characteristics that make us who we are. We should be true to ourselves. But there are parts of ourselves that we can alter and tweak so that we are more enjoyable to be around. It might sound like this is changing ourselves for others, but, in reality, the more enjoyable you are to be around, the more people will want to be with you and the more enjoyment you’ll find for yourself.”